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Seeing estranged family at funeral mumsnet. Basic is I have a moral dilema. Hope your Dad is OK and bridges can be built with your cousins. My grandad on my dad’s side passed away this week and I’ve found out through my Apr 25, 2025 · Estranged from parent - my choice due to years of abuse, constant abandonment etc. Parents of Estranged Adult Children are NOT welcome to participate in this sub. It is a supportive and engaging community for adult children where a conscious decision to estrange from one or both of their parents has been made Jan 15, 2014 · The first time this happened was when I was in my 20s, then again in my 40s, twice, and latterly, in my 50s we were virtually snubbed at my aunties funeral by her and my poor Mum was treated very badly. Mar 9, 2024 · My relative sadly passed away recently and the funeral will be in a few weeks. The fact that they're estranged often means we hear the news out of the blue, and this can bring with it huge shock. I will add that other than one uncle none of them actually tried to have and contact with me either. I guess the reason i feel i should attend his funeral, is closure rather than respect. Though emotions are sure to be high, the funeral is not the place to settle old scores. In fact it often opens up worse feeling of abandonment etc that can never be put right. But you have to respect their wishes for the funeral Apr 10, 2023 · The illness or death of an estranged family member can be vexing for surviving relatives. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. You get closure by making it with yourself. TBH it sounds like a recipe for disaster from your point of view. And this is the result, people fall out and people get hurt. Jul 10, 2021 · It sounds like you would be uprooting your family to care for your mum, and your brother and SIL would turn up fortnightly to make your lives a misery, your mum would give your brother all the credit while you did all the work. Going to the funeral of an estranged parent doesn't give closure. Estranged older half sibling (s Apr 24, 2025 · Needspaceforlego · 24/04/2025 13:38 Sorry but it sounds like their has been a family fallout and they were effectively estranged or NC as MN likes to put it. Nov 20, 2021 · My uncle who was estranged from the family for the past 10 years I have just found out has died. An estranged family member who I had quite a big falling out with will Estrangement is a healthy response to an unhealthy situation. Sep 21, 2023 · If you do decide to attend the funeral, it is important to be respectful and avoid any arguments or conflict with attendees and other family members. In this article, we'll look at how to navigate this shock and grief, attending the funeral, coping with unresolved emotions, moving forward after the loss, and much more. Haven't seen them in 20+ years. Sibling has asked me to go to hospital to see them on death bed. Sep 6, 2010 · The logistics of the funeral plan can have an influence on whether or not you go. We were all 'airbrushed' from the eulogy and told we couldn't send flowers as it was for 'immediate family' only. Should they say goodbye? Attend the funeral? Send flowers? Jun 15, 2024 · I’m an adult child estranged from my siblings and I’m interested to hear how other parents manage family occasions etc when two siblings/close family May 2, 2019 · Posting here for traffic. The only surviving blood relations are myself and my Dec 28, 2021 · If you're estranged from your parent, siblings, relatives, or a narcissist, did you attend the funeral, memorial, or social function in which the toxic people attended? Feb 6, 2024 · Really triggering segment on Radio 2 today on family estrangement, did anyone else hear it? Anyone affected by it. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody Jun 17, 2021 · Hi, So I’m NC with my mum and very LC with my gran, her mother. May 21, 2020 · Numbers are limited at funerals so if you haven't spoken to that side of the family they may have already 'filled' that number. If you’re not comfortable asking the family member in charge of planning the funeral about these issues, phone the funeral director and explain your situation. Oct 14, 2025 · Entirely your choice but if you feel it would be difficult being around your wider (estranged ) family it might be better not to go and I think if it were me I wouldn’t. . You can still remember the person in your own way - light a candle at the time of their funeral or go for a walk and place some flowers at a place which perhaps was important to that person / yourself and have a few moments Mar 30, 2024 · Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Death of an estranged parent Dealing with the death of a toxic and/or estranged parent can feel uniquely Oct 28, 2021 · His family i believe will have all been aware i existed because he was married to my mother and i apparently met my extended family. Father recently diagnosed with a life threatening illness. This sub is a safe space and closely moderated. May 2, 2019 · Posting here for traffic. Estranged older half sibling (s An estranged family member's death can have a huge effect upon us. obr hnq jfi rwq ruv mdb iyh qws lyz mdl bww ldj yes lxf ibu